Open communication and where it leads...

OK some of you may be aware that I have asked my wife permission to have an affair. Yeah yeah go grow a set dude and just go have one, bite me twice... I don't want to divorce her I just wanted sex more frequently. Anyway once you ask your wife for something like that and she hasn't killed you, you can pretty much say what ever you want when ever you want. So we were driving around and discussing the pros and cons of dating and why affairs happen and what have you. I was talking about the newness of relationships and how it was exciting to get to know someone again and how it was the thrill of the chase that did it for guys. I said that marriages would maybe last longer if the "newness" could stay longer and not disappear after a year or two. She rebutted my argument with an observation that if you had the "newness" of a relationship all the time you'd get tired of that. So I guess the real trick to keeping a relationship alive and well is to evolve as a person aswell as a couple and to continually strive to expand yourself (no that does not mean to start scarfin' down the bon bons). I mean I have interests outside of my wife and she has interests outside of me and you really need to be able to focus on those as well so that you are able to share the excitement and passion you have for an interest. I as a man need to take notice of interests she has and she needs to take notice of mine. If you actively listen to each other and not jsut say yes or "uh huh" at the appropriate time you can make a big impact in your relationship.

I married my wife for a reason. Sometimes I forget that reason and I need to remind myself why I married her. I married her because I could see myself growing old with her. I saw in her someone that would make a wonderfull mother. I saw in her someone who was caring. It's funny, well not really, but most of our "fights" are because I have to put my own selfish needs first. I want sex, I want my sandwich made in a certain way, I want my clothes folded a certain way. I do have to step back and look at what the fight is about and if I really need to fight for it. The only time she ever really stood her ground on a fight was to have our second child. I was pretty against it. I was happy with one.... and I would have been for quite some time but now that my youngest is nearing two he is becoming a lot more fun for me even if he still is a momma's boy....

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Your Inner Child Is Scared

Like a kid, you tend to shy away from new experiences. You prefer what's tried and true - novelty is scary! New foods, new places, and new friends are difficult for you to deal with. Some say you're predictable, but you enjoy being comfortable.

How Is Your Inner Child?

I find this funny, I wouldn't say I am scared but yeah I like tried and true...

Almost a month....

Well I have been trying to be less attached to my computer lately....

I mean I love my internet friends dearly, but I can't let the internet take away from my family. Most notibly my wife. I was finding that I was searching fro something that was always there for me, just waiting for me to rediscover it. It's funny how you can lose something and still have it sitting right infront of you the whole time.

Ever get that elation of finding something you lost? Like when you were younger and you left the back gate open and you dog ran out and you combed the neighbourhood for hours looking for them. Or when you were a bit older and you lost your report that you spent four weeks writing, on how the dolphins were actually space aliens from another planet they were just amish. The elation of being reunitied with those things after the sinking feeling in you stomach. It does tend to be quite the high.

So for those of you who think you will never get back what once you had. Keep looking and keep working on it. I bet it is there staring you right back in your face.